Surviving Your Worst Nightmare: A Guide for the Betrayed

Patti Snodgrasswritten by Patti Snodgrass

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Finally, a book that chronicles the journey of a betrayed spouse from the initial shock and anguish of the infidelity to the healing of the wounded heart. A must–read for those experiencing the trauma of a spouses affair.

—Maggie Strowd LCPC, LMFT, Marriage and Family Counselor

What Readers Are Saying

“I read Surviving Your Worst Nightmare: A Guide For the Betrayed shortly after discovering that my husband had betrayed our wedding vows. It was comforting to know that someone had experienced what I was going through, and that I, too, could survive. It was reassuring to hear that my crazy thinking and roller coaster emotions were normal. It was also helpful to learn that the desires I had to stay with my husband and work on our marriage were not foolish. Surviving Your Worst Nightmare: A Guide for the Betrayed is not a one–time read; I often referred back to the book as I tried to live my new life after broken wedding vows. I found that Patti’s recommended practice of ‘Face it, Embrace it, Mourn it, and Move on’ has been especially helpful in the healing process, not only as my husband and I worked on restoring our marriage, but also with other past relational hurts in my life. I have found hope again for my future. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who has been betrayed by a spouse or loved one, whether it was yesterday, or years ago.”

—Ann Roth, a survivor

“If you want the truth about the devastating effects of adultery upon a spouse, and how to navigate gracefully through that pain, you have stumbled on the right book. With gut–wrenching honesty, Patti Snodgrass shares the real state of affairs. Someone once told me ‘Truth without grace is just plain mean.’ No need to worry about that here. This is a book full of grace and truth.”

—Dave Browning, Lead Pastor, Christ the King Community Church, and author of Deliberate Simplicity

“Whether you are trying to survive the aftermath of your spouses unfaithfulness, or you have been the unfaithful one, this book is for you. Having been on both sides of betrayal, being a betrayer, and having been betrayed I know the pain and heartbreak that an affair creates. Patti’s survival story is honest, informative and insightful. The guide section will help you process the emotional trauma that the affair has brought into your life. A must read, not only for the faithful, but for the unfaithful as well.”

—Lily Conant

“Since it rings true that, ‘all humans are born broken, spend their lives mending, and the grace of God is the glue,’ Surviving Your Worst Nightmare: A Guide for the Betrayed is a lifeline for all of us. For many, however, the universal brokenness Eugene O–Neil described is intensified by early traumatizing life experiences. Patti awakened to a night–mare in her marriage, and though paralyzed, realized the nightmare was rooted in her early tragic childhood. I salute Patti’s decision to face her early tragedies so she could be a healthy human being. Early on, she resolved to share her story because it just might ‘connect’ with someone who is trapped and sees no ‘way out.’ Patti’s magnetic story line and her gentle care for readers are proofs that she writes with mellow authority and wisdom, which forms only in the crucible of suffering and grief. Patti’s wisdom is easily accessible. She is eager to walk with anyone who meets a ‘nightmare’ horror.”

—Donald M. Joy, Ph. D., Professor of Human Development and Family Studies, Asbury Theological Seminary, Wilmore, Kentucky